Child Molester's Victim, Her Mother Hope Story Helps Others

Of the thousands of victims of child molestation each year, many of them remain silent, sometimes for years, without anyone realizing they need help.A girl and her mother recently spoke with 6News in hopes that their voices will be heard and will help other children.
The mother told 6News' Julie Pursley that she had taught her daughter about good touch and bad touch, and that her child had heard the same message in school.

Those are reasons why she thinks her child was brave enough to let her know when someone they thought was safe betrayed their trust. 6News did not reveal their identities.

The mother said she had no idea her daughter would be in danger when she went to spend a night at a friend's home.

"You just don't know what is lurking behind a person," the mother said. "Two days later, she told me that she needed to talk to me as I was putting her to bed. That's when she told me she had been molested."

The molester was a man living at the friend's home. The incident happened while other people were sleeping nearby.

"I didn't say anything. I was afraid (that) he would try to do something, like try to hurt me," the girl said.

The girl said she got to her cell phone in the middle of the night.

"I called my mom, and he offered me a ride home. I said, 'No, my mom will come and get me,'" the girl said.

"She was very adamant. She wanted to come home," the mother said.

The child's mother said she feels guilty because her daughter had been reluctant about staying at the home. What she didn't know was that the man had touched the girl before.

"I didn't ask. I just thought she was afraid to spend the night," the mother said.

Emily Perry, a therapist and social worker who counsels victims of molestation, said children often don't speak up because of fear.

"The best thing is to know your child, to know their normal behaviors and know their normal reactions and responses to people," Perry said.

Perry said parents should ask questions and create opportunities for their children to talk when they feel uncomfortable and should also teach body safety.

"They might say, 'This is your private part, and nobody is supposed to touch your private part,' but they forget to say, 'It's OK to say no. It's OK to run away, and it's OK to tell somebody.'"

Anyone who finds that their child has been victimized by a molester should contact police and seek counseling for the child.

The Indianapolis Institute For Families works with victims in an attempt to prevent future problems, such as depression and relationship issues.

"Any traumatized victim can experience a lifetime of symptoms," said Diane Burks of the Indianapolis Institute for Families. "Early intervention and treatment can cut that down significantly and help them find positive ways to recover and minimize those kinds of symptoms."

The institute designs special therapy for children, including a program called Healing with Horses. Burks said the animals bond with the children and give feedback through their responses.

"The horses become therapeutic partners for them and help them through finding solutions for their own recovery," Burks said. "I can't remove that experience from their life, but I can certainly help them find ways to constructively use that life experience to help others to recover so they can be fully functioning citizens again."

The girl who shared her story said she hopes it will help other kids.

"I want kids to know that if something is going wrong in your home, or if you know someone is being molested, they need to do something about it," the girl said. "You need to tell somebody, because then it will stop and you will be safe."

The man who molested the girl is now serving time in prison because she spoke out. Investigators found she wasn't his only victim.

# Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline: 800-800-5556

Girl Accused Of Trying To Kill Sleeping Mother

Police said they arrested a 12-year-old Miami County girl suspected of setting fire to her sleeping mother's bed and driving away in a car with her younger siblings Monday.The mother called 911 at about 5 a.m. to say that she woke up to see her bed burning. She extinguished the fire and noticed her car and her three children -- ages 12, 8 and 6 -- were missing from their southern Miami County home, state police said.When a Miami County sheriff's sergeant called the mom's cell phone, the 12-year-old answered and said she and her siblings had been abducted, police said. The girl said she was being forced to drive south on U.S. 31 while their abductor followed in another vehicle, according to police.
The officer persuaded the girl to stop at a location in Howard County, where sheriff's deputies found the children unharmed, police said.Investigators determined that the children were not abducted, that the 12-year-old had set her mother's bed on fire as the woman slept on it, and that the girl stole her mother's car and persuaded her siblings to leave with her, according to police.The 12-year-old was being held Monday evening at a juvenile detention facility on charges of attempted murder and arson, police said. The other children were released to their mother.

Why We Should Let O.J. Speak

The best way to end the doubt is to hear him admit he did it.

Rupert Murdoch has just canceled the O.J. Simpson book and TV special in which Simpson (presumably) describes how he would have half-decapitated Nicole Simpson and stabbed Ron Goldman had "the real killers" not done it first. The cancellation is certainly justified on grounds of decency, sensitivity and, given the universal public revulsion, commercial good sense. But I would have done differently. I would have let O.J. speak.

I thought the outrage was misdirected and misplaced. The attention and money Simpson (and Fox) would have garnered from the deal are not half as outrageous as the fact that every day he walks free. The real outrage is the trial that declared him not guilty: the judge, a fool and incompetent whose love of publicity turned the trial into a circus; the defense lawyers, not one of whom could have doubted the man's guilt yet who cynically played on the jury's ignorance and latent racism to win a disgraceful verdict; the prosecutors, total incompetents who bungled a gimmie, then shamelessly cashed in afterwards; the media that turned the brutal deaths of two innocents into TV's first reality-show soap opera.

Worst of all was the jury, whose perverse verdict was the most brazen and lawless act of nullification since the heyday of Strom Thurmond. Sworn to uphold law, they decided instead to hold a private referendum on racism in the L.A. Police Department.

The result was a grotesque miscarriage of justice. And there it rested, frozen and irreversible. I wanted to hear O.J. speak because that was the one way to, in effect, reopen the case, unfreeze the travesty and get us some way back to justice. Not tangible throw-the-thug-in-jail justice. But the psychological justice of establishing Simpson's guilt with perfect finality.

This is especially important because so many people believed — or perhaps more accurately, made themselves believe — in O.J.'s innocence. Everyone remembers gathering around the television at work to watch the verdict, and then the endless national self-searching over the shocking climax: not the verdict, but the visceral response to the verdict — the white employees gasping while the black employees burst into spontaneous applause.

Pollsters found that nearly 90% of African-Americans agreed with the verdict. Almost a third of whites did too. What better way to eliminate this lingering and widespread doubt about Simpson's guilt than to have the man himself admit it. But for that you need his confession. The fact that he prefaced his "I did it" with the word "if" is irrelevant. Simpson will always avoid unqualified admission if only to avoid further legal jeopardy for, say, perjury.

But has there ever been someone who responds to the murder of an ex-wife — a death he publicly mourned and pretended to be so aggrieved by that he would spend the rest of his days looking for "the real killers" — to engage in the exercise of telling how he would have cut her throat?

No survivor of a murdered spouse who is innocent could do anything so grotesque. Can you imagine Daniel Pearl's widow writing a book about how she would have conducted the beheading of her husband? Or Jehan Sadat going on television to describe how she would have engineered her husband's assassination? Such things are impossible. The mere act of engaging in so unimaginably repulsive an exercise is the ultimate proof of Simpson's guilt.

Who cares if O.J. profits financially? There is nothing in that injustice — and a further injustice it undeniably is — that compares to the supreme injustice of the verdict. And exposing the verdict's falsity — from the killer's mouth no less — is worth whatever price we as a society would have paid in the sordidness of the TV spectacle and the book.

After such an event, anyone persisting in maintaining Simpson's innocence would have been exposed as a fool or a knave. The interview and book would have been valuable public assets to rub in the face of those who carried out the original travesty — Simpson's lawyers, his defenders and, above all, the jury — and those who continue to believe it.

Here's the television I really will miss now: the cameras taken into the homes of every one of those twelve willful jurists who sprung O.J. free 12 years ago and made a mockery of the law by trying to turn a brutal murderer of two into a racial victim/hero. I wanted to see their faces as the man they declared innocent described to the world how he would have taken—nonsense: how he did take—the knife to Nicole's throat.

The Orgasmic French Kiss

Virtually everyone remembers their first French kiss. It was a great experience for some and more like a tongue-war for others. But since then, we've all learned that French kissing is a very personal and sensual experience.

Since women's lips are their number one erogenous zone, it's very important for men to leave a lasting, eroticized impression with women. Remember that if you French kiss her like no other, you'll probably get to kiss something else soon afterwards...

The skill of kissing does not simply consist of knowing how to maneuver your tongue inside a woman's mouth without hitting her tonsils. Rather, it involves the entire mouth -- the lips, tongue, teeth, and the rest of the body.


The Orgasmic French Kiss

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14 Spicy Ways to Give Blissful Kisses

1. The Beginner's Kiss

A simple meeting of the lips. Your lips may brush against each other or gently press together. Done with finesse, this can be a fantastic starting point. A variation of this is to "swirl" your lips slowly around your lover's. Relax, let go and allow your lips to roam over and around your lover's mouth -- real bliss with little effort.

2. The Butterfly Kiss

Using your eyelashes, gently flutter them across your lover's lips, eyelids, cheeks, neck and, when kissing the breasts, on the nipples, too.


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Self Centeredness

Most females enter relationship (consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously) with a self centered motive. No wonder comments like “he has not asked me to marry him and I have let go of other suitors”, “all men are bad”, “I have feelings for that guy and he is not asking me out”, etc. Since females are crammed and mostly stuck on relationship issues, it suffices to say that they make no effort to understand the male counterpart. If the male counterpart does not meet their preferences, they get worried unnecessarily and develop a pattern of helplessness. They fail to see their contribution in the whole relationship problem and continue casting blame. This in itself is one of the greatest issues of relationship amidst other self imposed vices.

Openness in Communication

Females have a firm belief that they are wired naturally not be open in dealing with their male counterparts. Imagine a female going steady with a guy for 3 years and expecting to get married without voicing her intentions. Why spend 3 years with a guy and you can not tell him how you feel? Why believe that you will lose something by speaking openly with a guy you intend to marry? The only thing you will lose is pride and fear. My dear females, you are not wired to be closed, you chose to be closed because you are afraid of the outcome of being open.

The Weakling Mentality

Females actually believe they are the weaker sex so they allow the man define their happiness. The cultural conditioning gives them this “I need to be pampered and taken care of” mentality. Truth the told, you are created to be a help-meet to a man not to be pampered by a man. You may not be as physically strong as a man but you have a stronger influence. What you lack, you are compensated by other sense of strength. Females fail to maximize their potential for the good of the relationship but sit back defining set of roles for themselves.

A female friend complained to me that she has been slapped by her husband and she wanted a divorce. Then I asked what she did but she claimed she did not do anything. I asked her if her husband had a mental problem and she looked at me obviously shocked with the question. She said no. I asked her if she has ever heard or seen her husband slapped other females like his colleague or even her sister. She said no. So your husband woke up one morning looked at you and slapped you. She did not wait for me to explain as she called me a chauvinistic pig. After much discourse, she finally made me understand she had nagged and insulted him because he failed to keep to a promise of buying her a shoe.

Trust is not Love

Many females do not know the difference between trust and love. The story above indicates females’ inability to love without trust. From my friend’s story, that was the first time the man hit him and she was obviously shocked at his reaction. Since, I can not judge the man without hearing his own side of the story, I told her she was expected to love her hubby and trust God. Man is fallible, no matter how wonderful he appears and perfects himself to be. If females have it in the back of their mind that every man out there is not perfect, it will easier for them to transit issues flawlessly. They will commit their man to God, and confirm his strength not emphasize on his weakness. Jesus loved humans but did not commit himself to them because he knew they were weak.

Lack of Kingship

Most females lack Kingship; they fail to understand their rights to protect their relationship territory. God made man; male and female he made them. The first assignment he gave this male and female is to dominate their territory. Most females do not know their role as partner to their husband. They are expected to lift their families to God and bear the burdens of the relationship with the man. A girl is going out with a guy and she is praying for the guy to ask her hand in marriage instead of praying for the guy’s solvency to life’s issues like financial, political and social. She expects to be a liability instead of an asset to the man. She looks down upon herself and tells God that only this man can make her happy. If you pray for the man’s success (not putting one leg out and one leg in), God will reward you with the man.

Commit to the Relationship

Females get overwhelmed by deep emotional turmoil so in order to free themselves; they look for the easy alternative which is to guard their heart from such pains. This alternative could easily be avoided if their perspective to relationship was different- commit to the relationship not to the man. The man is subject to change because he is human and it may be difficult to handle such evolution. You will be able to adapt to his new state of mind of the man, if you commit to the relationship instead of the man. An example is a man that looses his job and decides to drink as a solace to his problem. If you commit to the man, it will be difficult to pray for him without seeing him in the light of his present position. This nullifies your belief which is a prerequisite for answered prayers.

Lack of Purpose

Before a woman enters a committed relationship, she is expected to have a defined purpose which should align with the purpose of the proposed man. When a female has a purpose, it is easy to decipher your emotional weakness when choosing your life partner. If you base your relationship on an ephemeral stuff like the kind of car he drives, how good he is in bed or how tall he is, you will end up getting hurt after 2 years into that said relationship. Choose your partner based on purpose so you will have something to hinge on during crisis which is inevitable

18 Simple Rules for Becoming a Better Kisser

Em & Lo

Want to leave him breathless with your kisses alone? In Nerve's Guide to Sex Etiquette for Ladies and Gentlemen by Em and Lo, you'll discover all sorts of suggestions for minding your manners in the bedroom, starting with old-fashioned kissing. By following simple etiquette rules, you can guarantee sweeter smooches that are sure to please your partner.

Most unfortunately, there are coxcombs among us who refer to making a move as "going in for the kill." However, leaning in for that first kiss should not be considered some kind of predatory attack, a forceful champing at the bit with excessive salivation. Instead, it should be thought of as an intimate moment shared between two people that can run the gamut from sweet and romantic to hot and heavy. Unfortunately, too many people mistake "hot and heavy" for "wet and messy." These people are the bad kissers among us. Do not hate them, for they know not what they do (usually because no one has the heart or presence of mind to set them straight). Hence, everyone believes they alone have turned lip-locking into an art form. But someone has got to be inspiring the countless tales told round water coolers about the "spin cyclist." Who knows, perhaps it is you, dear reader. Follow the rules below to make certain it is not.

* Ladies and gentlemen, do not lick your lips as you go in for the kiss. This is the equivalent of a renowned opera singer hacking up a loogie on stage in order to clear his throat before an aria.

* Your mouth is not a jack-in-the-box. Ergo, every time you open it, your tongue should not automatically pop out. Work up to this most precocious of French maneuvers. When in doubt, follow this order of operations during any given kissing session: 1.) Closed mouth, 2.) Opened mouth, no tongue, 3.) Opened mouth, just the hint of tongue, 4.) Full-on tongue probing. Whether that four-step process takes a half hour or 30 seconds to complete, the buildup is infinitely preferable to sticking out one's tongue and saying "Ahhh" as one's patented opening move.

o Do not open your mouth so much wider than your partner's that it appears as if you are trying to eat their head. Kissing is not a Mick Jagger impersonation contest.

o Tongue-flicking your partner's uvula as if it were a boxing bag must never be attempted by anyone wishing to float high above the depths of vulgarity, not to mention stupidity.

o Do not make a beeline for the boobs, the ass or the crotch the instant the lips have locked, especially during a first kiss or during kisses early on in the dating process. It is one thing if you are both living out the elevator scene from Fatal Attraction. It is quite another if you are strolling along the promenade under the moonlit sky, having done nothing but hand-holding up until this point. In most cases, romance should take priority over unadulterated lasciviousness; you will both wish to savor the moment, so focus on the kissing. Do not denigrate it or distract yourselves from its beauty by rushing to the naughty bits. True ladies and gentlemen, for the most part, take their sweet time.

o Only the most hopeless of souls employs the sucker punch. Sneaking up on someone (especially someone you have never kissed before) and planting one on them by surprise so they cannot act quickly enough not to kiss you is the epitome of rudeness, to say nothing of desperation. You may, however, grab your date by the hand, push them up against a wall and plant one on them passionately, so long as there is not even the slightest hint of hesitation in their constitution. That three-step process should give you enough time to accurately assess your date's response and abort the kiss if need be.

o Likewise, grabbing someone's face is romantic so long as you are not holding their head to keep them from pulling away. Putting someone in a headlock so they cannot escape your kisser is not only rude, it is criminal.

o If the kissee pulls away, the ladylike or gentlemanly kisser refrains from getting mad or pouty. Even if you are dying of humiliation or crying on the inside, maintain a cool and calm exterior. You can kill yourself later.
o When you come up for air and find your mouth poised on the precipice of their earlobe, proceed with caution and restraint. Many persons despise ear play altogether, on principle, as it reminds them of the wet willies of yesteryear. So go slowly, breathe softly, blow ever so gently, use your tongue sparingly -- it should just delicately graze the outside of the earlobe, not dig for waxen gold like a Q-tip. If your partner pulls away, do not keep revisiting the area in an effort to convert them.

o True ladies and gentlemen are diligent about freshening their breath. Brush your teeth (and your tongue) often, carry mints with you at all times and keep a small tube of toothpaste in your nightstand drawer for morning touch-ups so you -- or your partner -- will not have to leave the warm comforts of bed prematurely.

o A lady or gentleman never goes in for a kiss (or accepts an incoming one) during an outbreak of oral herpes. A true gentleman or lady with oral herpes (GoLwOH) explains their situation pre-kiss even between outbreaks. 'Tis true, almost a quarter of the kissers in this country suffer from oral herpes (most of them unknowingly), and yes, the chance of spreading oral herpes between outbreaks is very, very low (especially if you take suppressive medicine). But a true GoLwOH would -- and should -- tell. It is only polite to let your date make their own decision about the risk they are willing to incur. That said, many a measured gentleman and lady have been more than understanding when a GoLwOH waited until the second or third kiss to inform them of the condition. It is out of our jurisdiction to endorse lies of omission; however, many modern doctors will tell you it is fair play not to tell between outbreaks. A note of caution: This rule does not apply to genital herpes.

o A lady or gentleman never expects a make-out session, or even a good-bye kiss on the lips, at the end of a date. We would do well to remember that kissing is so intimate an act that not even Julia Roberts's hooker character in Pretty Woman would allow her johns to osculate her. The same thing goes for holding hands in public on a first date, especially before the drinking has commenced. Civilized people find it extremely odd and out of fashion that so many young couples on the show Blind Date begin holding hands within the first few minutes of meeting -- even when they are not particularly fond of one another. Barbarians, all of them!

Herein you will find polite excuses that may be employed to help keep a lover's wild tongue in its cage and your relationship on track:

o The Public Nuisance: "Whoa there, Nellie, we don't want to frighten the horses. I'm all for PDA, but please let's keep it G-rated for the kids' sake."

o The Bored Game: "I know this really cool game. You have to kiss each other without touching anything except lips, and that includes tongue and all other body parts. Wanna play?"

o Foreplay for Fools: "Honey, I just want you to lie back, relax and let me do all the work. You don't have to move an inch. No, I mean it, don't move!"

o The Doctor's Note: "My dentist said that due to my root canal, no foreign objects may enter my mouth, except through a straw."

o The Barry White: "Aaaaw yeah, baby, I just love your beautiful supple lips, ooooh, they're so round and red, oh oh oh, I wanna love them all night long, reeeeeal soft and reeeeeal slow, baby."

o The Blunt Instrument: "I enjoy the wet one every now and again, but people are starting to wonder about the teeth marks. Please be gentle with me from time to time. Now kiss me, you fool!"

The Orgasmic French Kiss

David Strovny

Virtually everyone remembers their first French kiss. It was a great experience for some and more like a tongue-war for others. But since then, we've all learned that French kissing is a very personal and sensual experience.

Since women's lips are their number one erogenous zone, it's very important for men to leave a lasting, eroticized impression with women. Remember that if you French kiss her like no other, you'll probably get to kiss something else soon afterwards...

The skill of kissing does not simply consist of knowing how to maneuver your tongue inside a woman's mouth without hitting her tonsils. Rather, it involves the entire mouth -- the lips, tongue, teeth, and the rest of the body.

give the lady a hand

Positioning your hands on her body while kissing her is especially important too. Holding her face firmly but gently while you slip your tongue inside her mouth and suck on her lips will definitely make her toes curl.

As well, pulling her hair back from the back roots or slightly squeezing the part of her body that is located right under her breasts (her ribs) could make for some very tantalizing kissing sessions.

slip of the tongue

Since kissing your partner is probably one of the most important parts of lovemaking altogether, here are some fail-safe ways to ensure that your woman will want to French kiss you for life.

Since people often give out what they would like to receive, pay attention to the way she kisses you -- that's probably the way she wants you to kiss her. Does she bite on your lips or try to gently suck all the saliva off your tongue? Well there's nothing in the world like the gift of reciprocity!

the tricks of the trade

Does your loved one kiss you like she's trying to suck the life out of your body? Or does she kiss too fast, too slow, or without tongue, period? First off, don't tell her what you don't like, but rather what you do like. That way you won't hurt her feelings at all.

Control her mouth
The next time you're kissing her, hold her face with your hands and kiss her the way you'd like to be kissed. If the fact that you're taking control doesn't turn her on, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick.

Play a little game
Tell her that kissing her gets you so excited and then suggest that you guys switch roles and ask her to kiss you the way you kiss her because you want to know what it feels like. She'll be more than happy to cater to your request.

Make it last... long
There is almost nothing in this world that beats those long, slow, juicy, and very enticing kisses. Your woman will definitely feel your passion through one of those prolonged succulent kissing moments. Kiss her hard and deep.

it's all about technique

Now that you've discovered how to get her into kissing the way you'd like her to, let's move on to the experimental ways, which will bring her to think and want you all the time.

Suck on her tongue
Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning apparatus on her tongue. If you'd like, suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck on her clitoris. She'll catch on quite quickly and perhaps after that you can let her suck on your finger so that she can return the favor.

Lick her lips with your tongue
Get creative and lick on her upper and lower lips in a slow, ticklish method. Once you have lubricated them adequately with your saliva, move your lips around her lips and let your saliva wet both of your outer mouths.

Suck on her lips
If licking her lips makes you antsy and quickly wanting more, then begin sucking on her lips... one at a time though, no one wants to feel as though they've stuck their mouth on an opened vacuum.

Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough or you'll end up giving her a hickey and I have yet to meet a woman who would appreciate that.

Move beyond her mouth
Don't be shy, you're not confined to kissing just her lips... there's a whole face and body to explore. Why not French kiss her chin, her neck and her breasts? Or kiss her eyes, the spot behind her ears or her wrists.

You'd be surprised at the beneficial results that creativity can reap. All you really need is the willingness to try anything. If you've never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you'll know the basics of being a professional kisser.

On the other hand, if, when you kiss a woman and then pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer, it usually means that she thoroughly enjoyed the kiss and there's a good chance that you can further seduce her if you like.

Until next time, remember that everything starts with a kiss, and determines if it's a hit or a miss!

Top 10 Signs You're A Bad Kisser

Shawn Croft

You look into her eyes and feel your heartbeat accelerate. A couple more stares and you finally start approaching to embrace her. You are nervous, she is eager. Your lips lock, and you feel your heart free fall. Suddenly, she stops -- you wonder why? Is it your breath? Say it ain't so. What if you were too aggressive? Here are the Top 10 Signs that your kissing technique needs some fine-tuning.

10. She slipped the tongue once, but never again
She gave up a hot, passionate kiss once before, but for some reason, she's hesitant to try it again. Why? Well, it could be because you were fumbling around in her mouth like an eager beaver. Next time, don't start salivating the second her lips part, she may just want to say "good night."

9. She goes for other parts
If she likes you, but opts to avoid your mouth and heads for other body parts instead, then your bad kissing techniques could work in your favor. Chances are that she'll go for your neck too. This could be quite good after all.

8. "I have to wake up early in the morning"
She happens to be passionate most of the time, but she seems repeatedly hesitant to make out with you at night, opting to crash instead.

7. She never initiates kissing
No matter how shy, women love to get intimate with the ones they love. If your woman never initiates the kissing, it could be because she knows that her tonsils might get a beating.

6. She ain't no Sleeping Beauty
She kissed you once. But since then, she yawns in your face each time you approach her for an embrace. Fear not, if she is sleepy enough, you can always head out for someone else to practice with.

5. Chew the lip?
Some girls really like it when you gently bite their lips. But if you notice that suddenly her lips rival Angelina Jolie's, chances are that she won't be so keen about making out with you anytime soon.

4. She decides you should be friends; after the first kiss
Perhaps there are other reasons, but chances are that your embrace turned out to be the kiss of death for your ripe relationship. Oh well, back to the drawing board.

3. She never compliments you
Okay, we know that women need to be reassured that they are great kissers and lovers. Men are the same; if she never says, "I love kissing you," then there is a chance that she thinks you're bland.

2. She stuffs gum in your mouth every time you breathe
Admittedly, this is more of a sign that she thinks your breath makes chronic halitosis smell like a rose garden. But the end result is the same; you'll end up with no love as she'll never mention that she "loves how you taste."

1. You see her kissing someone else
That should be the greatest hint that she doesn't dig your style. No sweat, if you have a mean streak, just try to pick up her sister or best friend once you've managed to perfect your lip lock, and she will regret kissing someone else and making you look foolish.

14 Spicy Ways to Give Blissful Kisses

Dr. Pam Spurr

1. The Beginner's Kiss
A simple meeting of the lips. Your lips may brush against each other or gently press together. Done with finesse, this can be a fantastic starting point. A variation of this is to "swirl" your lips slowly around your lover's. Relax, let go and allow your lips to roam over and around your lover's mouth -- real bliss with little effort.

2. The Butterfly Kiss
Using your eyelashes, gently flutter them across your lover's lips, eyelids, cheeks, neck and, when kissing the breasts, on the nipples, too.

3. The Droplet
Try experimenting with this in the heat of passion. If you're on top of your lover and kissing passionately, withdraw your lips slightly from his and allow a few droplets of your saliva to drip gently into his mouth.

4. The Eastern Swirl and Poke
This may be applied to the lips or the body. Relax your lips and allow your tongue to swirl and poke. Alternating these swirling and poking sensations feels wonderful.

5. The good old French Kiss
With open mouths, your tongues gently probe and swirl against the delicate skin inside the mouth.

6. The Lover's Pass
When you want to pass something in a sensual way to your lover -- perhaps a piece of chocolate, fruit or ice -- simply hold it gently between your lips and allow your mouth to touch his. Then, using your tongue, push the item into his mouth.

7. The Lush Lap
More controlled than the Naughty Dog, this kiss still involves a lapping motion with your tongue, but is more contained and controlled, with your lips kept close to your lover's skin. With your lips parted, use a firm, slow lap of the tongue pressed to her (or his) flesh, lips or mouth. Again, this kiss puts you in control and feels incredibly sexy to a lover who likes to yield to your moves.

8. The Medieval Necklet
Said to be enjoyed by knights of the realm when medieval ladies wore low-cut necklines. Gently circle your lover's neck with a series of kisses, moving from the lower neck just behind the ear, around the breastbone and finishing back behind the other ear. Both men and women enjoy the slow circular pattern being traced along this delicate skin.

9. The Mediterranean Flick
Said to originate from Latin lovers who flicked little beads of sweat from their lover's body during long hot summers of passion. Using a gentle flick of the tongue, you cover your lover's lips, cheeks, neck -- in fact, anywhere you please -- with delicate little flicks. This is perfect for the nipples and around the belly button.

10. The Naughty Dog
A passionate, earthy kiss, particularly good for larger erogenous zones such as the neck, breasts, abdomen and inner thigh. Let your mouth open loosely and allow your tongue to relax and "lap" at your lover's body. This feels incredible when applied from the lower part of the breast up to the tip of the nipple -- the tongue just flicking the nipple as the "lapping" motion finishes.

11. The Sliding Kiss
The tongue moves gently back and forth or in and out. A perfect kiss, too, for gently "sliding" erotic food -- such as sauces and creams -- off your lover's body as your foreplay develops.

12. The Snake
Moving on from the Mediterranean "flick," allow your tongue to flick, lap, poke and generally imitate that of a snake. This can take place while French kissing but can also be used all over your lover's body. It feels fantastic moving up and down the shaft of the penis or outer labia.

13. The Stretch
When French kissing, stretch your tongue up to rub the roof of your lover's mouth. People rarely focus on this area, yet the sensations your tongue can create here can be quite explosive.

14. The Vacuum Kiss
Allow your lips to relax and encircle your partner's lips with your own. Apply a gentle sucking motion that pulls on the much-neglected outer rim of the lips. Release the vacuum seal and then reapply. You're taking control and your lover's lips will yield to yours. You may also apply the vacuum to a single lip -- upper or lower. Also use the vacuum on your lover's tongue during French kissing, which will feel like heaven. If you apply the vacuum more firmly to your partner's body it'll become a lovebite -- see below.

Foreplay can build to an extraordinary level of passion through kissing. You and your lover may feel you're drawing the very heart and soul out of each other. Your kissing seems to quench a thirst that doesn't require water. Enjoy the moment.

Increase the heat with some gentle love "bites." This sounds such an adolescent thing to do but you needn't worry about leaving bruises on your lover's neck, breasts, thighs or wherever! Instead you can build up the tension with a stronger "vacuum" -- releasing his or her skin before any real mark is made. If he loves the sensation but doesn't want to go to work with a love bite -- simply dive below the neckline and "bite" him where he wants.

Men Reveal Their Top Kissing Tips

Most guys just don't realize how important that first kiss is to woman. Well, this should give you an idea: When you kiss a woman for the first time, she decides right then and there if she ever wants to kiss you again. Use these 10 tips to be sure you always leave her begging for more.

10. Do it in private

Privacy is key. A big mistake that too many guys make is going for a kiss in the wrong situation. Women want that first kiss to be special, and they'd prefer to share the moment with you and you alone. So if you're out somewhere social and you feel like the time is right, take her to a back room or, even better, to a completely different, more personal location.

9. Know when to pull out

There's no better way to let her know that you're a catch than by being the first to call it quits. Most guys go for the gold on the first kiss... and they rarely end up getting it. By being the one to slow down, you'll show her that you're in control... and most importantly, you'll leave her dying for more.

8. Feel her out

When you feel the moment is right, reach over and touch her hair while you're talking and make a comment about it. Say, "Your hair looks so soft," and lightly touch the tips of it. If she smiles, reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time shift your glance between her lips and her eyes a couple of times. If she lets you keep touching her hair, you know that she's ready to be kissed.

7. Be a tease

News flash: There's nothing that women love more than to be teased, so let her know who's in control by driving her crazy with your lips. Go in like you're going to kiss her, then at the very last second, pull away and flash her a mischievous grin. Use this sparingly to keep her turned on and on her toes.

6. Ease into it

Still feeling a little nervous about going in for the kill? Ease into it by leaning in and smelling her neck. Take a big sniff and say, "Mmm... you smell good." Then slowly brush your nose and cheek along hers as you pull your head back to make eye contact with her. When your eyes lock, close them and go for it.

5. Show some passion

Every woman longs to be ravished, so why not make her fantasy come true? As you're kissing her, reach back behind her and pull her head back by gently grabbing the hair right above her neck. Slowly kiss your way down her neck and give her a playful bite, then pull back slightly and breathe heavily on her neck and in her ear. Make sure your pants are securely fastened, because at this point she'll be trying her hardest to take them off!

4. Dip her down

If the mood is right, add some sensuality and chivalry to your first kiss by gently dipping her down, ballroom-style. There's no better way to make her feel like she's with a powerful and confident man. Do it right, and she'll never forget the moment.

3. Use your hands

Women love to be caressed, especially while they're being kissed. Starting above her ear, run your fingers through her hair, down to her neck and all the way down her back. Then slowly slide your hand back up again. Use both hands, and alternate between using your whole hand and just the tips of your fingers to give her an experience she won't soon forget.

2. Spice it up

Once initial contact has been made, spice it up a bit with some variety. Move from short, soft kisses into longer, deeper ones, then back again... and don't use your tongue any more than she does. Change the angle by moving your head to the other side, and alternate between sucking on her lower and upper lip. Be sure to stop to breathe after every few kisses. These little moves will let her know that you know exactly what you're doing.

1. Explore her body

When you're ready to really turn up the heat, kiss her on her neck and move your lips slowly up to her earlobes and give a light nibble. Don't be surprised when she starts breathing heavily.

Today in history - Nov. 22

Today is Wednesday, Nov. 22, the 326th day of 2006. There are 39 days left in the year.

Today's Highlight in History:

On Nov. 22, 1963, President Kennedy was shot to death while riding in a motorcade in Dallas. Texas Gov. John B. Connally, in the same limousine as Kennedy, was seriously wounded. Suspect Lee Harvey Oswald was arrested.

On this date:

In 1718, English pirate Edward Teach — better known as Blackbeard — was killed during a battle off the Virginia coast.


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Romney Pushes for MA Marriage Amendment

Kim Trobee

Massachusetts citizens have spoken by petition, but the state legislature is dragging its feet, saying it will not vote.

A record number of signatures have been gathered, still Massachusetts citizens are being ignored. Governor Mitt Romney is taking action.

“More than one quarter would like this initiative to go forward, but the majority refuses to actually meet and hold the vote. We will file an action with the courts calling upon the judiciary to protect the constitutional rights of our citizens and that is specifically to allow our citizens and their ballot initiative effort to go forward.”

The Supreme Judicial Court in Massachusetts has not been family-friendly in the past, but Kris Mineau with the Massachusetts Family Institute says there’s still hope for the future.

“That same court has ruled on previous situations like this that the legislature is constitutionally obligated to vote on citizens petitions. So we’re assuming they will hold that same ruling.”

There’s a chance the legislature will approve the measure before January when a shift in power takes place. Governor-elect Duvall Patrick is a staunch supporter of gay rights and Romney says he’d like to get the matter resolved prior to his term.

“I do believe that the rule of law is what’s at stake here. This is not just about marriage. It’s about whether or not the legislature will follow the constitution or not.”

Romney says ignoring the wishes of 170,000 would be a step toward tyranny.

Romney Pushes for MA Marriage Amendment

Massachusetts citizens have spoken by petition, but the state legislature is dragging its feet, saying it will not vote.

A record number of signatures have been gathered, still Massachusetts citizens are being ignored. Governor Mitt Romney is taking action.

“More than one quarter would like this initiative to go forward, but the majority refuses to actually meet and hold the vote. We will file an action with the courts calling upon the judiciary to protect the constitutional rights of our citizens and that is specifically to allow our citizens and their ballot initiative effort to go forward.”


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Members of Congress ask Amnesty International to Uphold Position on Abortion

Josh Montez

AI is considering changing its stance to make the procedure an international right for women who face unplanned pregnancies.

Representative Chris Smith spearheaded a letter signed by over 70 of his colleagues urging AI to remain neutral on abortion—or join the pro-life cause in defending the unborn. Deirdre McQuade is with the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops.

“They say that ‘we believe that the killing of an unborn child by abortion never be construed to be a human right.’ Every child—born or unborn—deserves protection and to have his or her human rights secured and protected.”

In a statement, Amnesty International said they received the letter from Congress and are looking forward to more dialogue on ‘pressing human rights issues.’ McQuade hopes that is true, despite the negative pressure they’re receiving from the pro-abort camp.

“That would very seriously threaten how much we could work together, how extensively we could have them speak in Catholic settings, or recruit young workers to be on staff with them.”

Democrats for Life is another pro-life group calling on AI to take a stand for the unborn; spokeswoman Kristen Day.

“I think it would be a step in the wrong direction to start promoting abortion. The unborn children are definitely worth protecting, and that should be a human rights protection—not advocating for abortion.”

Other members of Congress that signed the letter: Representatives John Boehner, Bart Stupak, Henry Hyde, Mark Souder, Joe Pitts and Marilyn Musgrave.

Family breakfasts at Tiffany's

The Scherer family of Carmel waited months to cash in on the special prize package they purchased at an auction last May.
Their high bid, and no one was telling how high that bid was, benefited Riley Hospital for Children, where Dr. Tres Scherer is a surgeon.
The prize package involved two relatively new ventures in Indianapolis: Tiffany & Co. and the Conrad Hotel.
Scherer and his wife, Joan, spent Saturday night at a Conrad Hotel suite. Sunday morning, the hotel's Rolls-Royce chauffeured the couple to a special Breakfast at Tiffany's, served long before any of the Fashion Mall shops opened to the public.
The 10 people in the Scherers' breakfast party included daughters Heather and Lindsey and friends Jack and Judy Myers. Scherer's brother and sister-in-law, Todd and Beth Scherer, drove in from Columbus, Ohio, for their chance to dine, Holly Golightly-style, at the Tiffany store.
Tiffany and Conrad staffers were on hand to ensure no need went unmet.
Doug Knopp, the Conrad's executive chef, whipped up a multicourse breakfast that included a trio of tropical fruit smoothies, glazed almond croissants and lobster and crab quiche with caviar. Champagne drinks flowed.
Scherer said he normally doesn't get into bidding wars at charity events. The last thing he remembers bidding on was a Rottweiler years ago -- he didn't win the pooch. Winning the Tiffany/Conrad package was something of a surprise.
"It was sort of spur of the moment, thinking, actually, I was just going to be anteing up the bid. I did not expect that I was going to have the winning bid," he said Sunday.
Joan Scherer said her favorite part of the breakfast was spending some special time with friends and family.
Erica Chappell, Tiffany's director, said that while the store holds a number of special events, the sit-down, silver-service breakfast was a rare opportunity.

Rogers' well-heeled birthday bash

Joyce Rogers' friends weren't going to let her 50th birthday go by without a big bash for the Indiana Black Expo president.
More than 100 well-wishers stopped by the Ice Ultra Lounge recently to offer their congratulations and have some fun.
Tanasha Anders, Monica Hare, Alpha Garrett and Kara Endsley helped plan the festivities.
The cake fit Rogers to a T: A pair of white chocolate high-heeled pumps topped a three-tiered delight.

Buzzin' around

Damien Center officials report the agency raised $60,000 from its recent Grand Masquerade fundraiser. That's 20 percent more than last year's take. . . . In case you missed Larry L. Hill's obituary last week, memorial contributions can be made to the Hooverwood Guild, 7001 Hoover Road, in memory of Heather Hill Smulyan's father and Emmis chief Jeff Smulyan's father-in-law.

Family breakfasts at Tiffany's

The Scherer family of Carmel waited months to cash in on the special prize package they purchased at an auction last May.

Their high bid, and no one was telling how high that bid was, benefited Riley Hospital for Children, where Dr. Tres Scherer is a surgeon.

The prize package involved two relatively new ventures in Indianapolis: Tiffany /&/amp; Co. and the Conrad Hotel.

Scherer and his wife, Joan, spent Saturday night at a Conrad Hotel suite. Sunday morning, the hotel's Rolls-Royce chauffeured the couple to a special Breakfast at Tiffany's, served long before any of the Fashion Mall shops opened to the public.


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Today in history - Nov. 19

Today is Sunday, Nov. 19, the 323rd day of 2006. There are 42 days left in the year.

Today's Highlight in History:

On Nov. 19, 1863, President Lincoln delivered the Gettysburg Address as he dedicated a national cemetery at the site of the Civil War battlefield in Pennsylvania.

On this date:

In 1794, the United States and Britain signed Jay's Treaty, which resolved some issues left over from the Revolutionary War.

In 1831, the 20th president of the United States, James Garfield, was born in Orange, Ohio.


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Girl forced into flesh trade by mother for political gain

An 18-year-old girl here on Friday accused her mother of forcing her into prostitution and using her to fulfil her political aspirations, police said.

The final curtain for Mumbai's dancing girls Mumbai dance bar owners to petition High Court against ban Mumbai's bar show goes on, for now

The district police chief asked officials to probe the matter, although the mother refuted the allegations and claimed her daughter was being misled.

The girl, who revealed her plight to a TV channel, said she was drugged by her mother, a member of a political party, before being forced into prostitution more than two years ago.

Claiming to have lodged complaints with the police demanding "freedom" from her mother's clutches, she purportedly named several politicians who had physical relationships with her and also accused her brother of raping her several times.

The girl had lodged complaints against her mother in 2005, accusing her of beating her up, but later withdrew them, saying she was misled by two persons, superintendent of police A K Singh told PTI.

On October 27, she complained to the police of "indecent behaviour" by some people visiting her house, he said.

Her mother reported her missing on three occasions, the last time on October 27, Singh said.

The girl would give a statement denying holding any grudge against her family every time she returned home, he said.

"However, after the fresh allegations came to my notice, a city Superintendent of Police has been asked to probe the matter," Singh said.

Russian was operating child porn site in Cypress

John Leonidou

A Cypress Court remanded in custody for eight days a 33-year-old Russian suspected of trafficking in child pornography.

According to CID Investigator Marios Nicolettis, the suspect, who for the past two years has been a permanent resident of Cyprus, had created his own website that channeled and stored pornographic pictures of minors.

When police officials raided his Yermasoyia home, the suspect was in the process of upgrading his website.

During the raid, officers found three computers and a large number of CDs featuring explicit pictures and video clips of minors.

Police were tipped off on the case by a message from the Canadian Interpol Department, who informed the Cypriot authorities that a website featuring child porn had been set up from Limassol.

"According to our preliminary investigations, the suspect was also operating a further six websites of a similar nature and earning well from the loyal subscribers of his business," Nicolettis told the court.

He added: "We are currently investigating whether some of the minors in the material might be from Cyprus, while police have also managed to recognise one of the victims - a child that was part of a paedophile ring in the United States."

The investigator told the court that "we have not ruled out the possibility that the suspect may be in league with other individuals, most likely Cypriots, and that more arrests could occur in the next few days."

Police will be taking around 45 statements in the case.

This is the second such arrest in the past few months, made by police after co-operation with foreign agencies.

Last August, a municipality employee was arrested after around 200,000 pornographic videos and pictures involving children were found on computers at his work and home.

The 45-year-old father of three was caught after Interpol in Germany intercepted the IP address on his computer downloading a video containing child pornography.

7 Secrets of a Great Relationship

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I thought it would be useful to provide some straight-from-the-heart advice about magnificent relationships. Sooner or later almost everyone finds themselves in an intimate relationship. Too often, in my opinion, they end up being mediocre at best and painful at worse. I imagine you know all too well what I mean. You were "there," and you wish it could have been better than it was (or is right now).


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7 Secrets of a Great Relationship

Dr. Matthew Anderson

Glee Contributor

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I thought it would be useful to provide some straight-from-the-heart advice about magnificent relationships. Sooner or later almost everyone finds themselves in an intimate relationship. Too often, in my opinion, they end up being mediocre at best and painful at worse. I imagine you know all too well what I mean. You were "there," and you wish it could have been better than it was (or is right now).

I am convinced that relationships of any quality are not mysteries. It takes specific ingredients to create a mediocre or a painful connection with another person. Sadly, most of us create serial relationships of minimal quality with maximum blame on our partner’s inadequacies and never seriously search for the real reasons that things went bad. We simplistically believe that a new partner will be the solution.

That "creative" idea will usually fail and nothing truly new will occur until we include new attitudes and behaviors in our relationships. (The definition of neurotic is "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result each time.")

What does it take to create a magnificent relationship? If it is not a mystery, then what are the basic ingredients? I have listed my seven secrets below. I consider them secrets because I rarely, if ever, hear them discussed by couples, marriage counselors or the media. They are, however, powerful contributors to the creation of a relationship (marriage) that is wonderful, strong, growing and life-transforming.


1. PARTNERSHIP. The old gender-based, role-defined model for successful marriage is dead (it died in the 20th century) and the new, evolving model is one of equal partnership in which all responsibilities are shared and/or negotiated based on ability, time and willingness.

2. INTIMACY. Intimacy is now the ultimate goal of committed partnership. It means open-hearted, deep sharing and the possibility of being truly known and accepted by another human being. A relationship without intimacy is no relationship at all. Intimacy requires a set of interpersonal and intrapersonal skills that can and must be learned to create a magnificent relationship.

3. LOVE BEYOND CHEMISTRY. This means making a deep commitment to support the very best in and for your partner, no matter how difficult this may be, and doing it all in a context of forgiveness and compassion.

4. RADICAL COMMITMENT. Most marriages fail because neither partner is willing to find the courage and depth in their own hearts to say and mean the following: "There is nothing you could do to cause me to leave you." Once this is said, unexpected and miraculous avenues of healing and growth appear.

5. SPIRITUALITY. Two partners must be held together by a relationship with a divine and unconditionally loving source. It gives their connection a meaning, a purpose and a reason to be, and a resource that sustains, heals and guides them through all of the challenges of life together.

6. 100 PERCENT AND 100 PERCENT. This is the "no blame policy." Participants in ALL mediocre and painful marriages are experts at identifying their partner’s faults and blaming them for the marital difficulties. This 100 percent means that each partner looks first and most deeply at his or her contributions to any and all problems.

7. WORK ON IT! Magnificent marriages are made, not born. They are the result of day-to-day effort by both partners. This includes study, workshops, therapy, inner-work and monies dedicated to the health and welfare of the relationship for as long as the two shall live. If you are not willing to work on it, then you are not grown up enough to be married (in my humble opinion). If you work on it, you will reap wonderful benefits.

I understand that each of the seven ingredients above is far too brief in description. However, I suggest you take the list and discuss it with your partner and see what occurs. Hopefully, it will spark a productive conversation that will move you a step or two closer to magnificence.

On a mission to help Filipino children

Fumio Tanaka

Pia Corvera, 22, rode in a jeepney, a means of transportation popular in the Philippines, down the slope from the hillside facility where she stays with others, to a silent beach in Subic Bay.

She said she felt happy when they were all together.

A slogan written on the side of the jeepney proclaims, "Helping people helping themselves." Pia says she likes the slogan very much.

On Oct. 27, she departed for Japan to visit friends who made the kind of efforts that allowed them to donate the jeepney to the facility.

Pia grew up in a slum in Manila. Soon after she was born, her parents abandoned her and she ended up staying with relatives. From age 5, the relatives put her to work watching over a parking lot, among other jobs.

When Pia's relatives got drunk, they often beat her. But they were pleased when she handed over 80 pesos (about 320 yen at the time), which she earned after working a full day.

At the time, Pia believed her parents would return and take her home some day.

When she was 8, a woman from the slum told her about "a way to make big money" with "a secret job."

Pia was very excited as the woman took her to a luxury hotel which dazzled her young eyes. She was shown to a room, where a man was waiting. Though she wanted to run away, her body did not move.

Pia's first job earned her 120 pesos for two hours. Though she felt her body had been tainted, she continued to work in this way, fearing she would be beaten at home if she returned without money.

On one occasion, a middle-aged Japanese tourist was waiting for her in a five-star hotel.

In January 1996, two men, a German and a Dutchman, were arrested on Boracay Island in the central Philippines. Police found Pia, who was 11 at the time, in the beach house where the two men were staying.

She had been held at the beach house for several days and the men had photographed and videotaped her. Throughout police questioning, Pia cried continually, saying she wanted to start her life over, even if it was in a prison.

Father Shay Cullen, an activist trying to stamp out child prostitution, visited Pia.

It was Cullen who founded the facility on the hill facing Subic Bay, which accommodates about 30 young people with backgrounds similar to Pia's.

Even after entering the facility, Pia was suffering from a deep mental trauma. She blamed herself for not refusing to engage in prostitution, and even considered suicide. During therapy sessions, she punched walls and windows, causing her knuckles to bleed.

Pia's turning point came in December 1996 when Cullen accompanied her to Germany to testify in court against the German man, who received a prison sentence. In the wake of the ruling, Pia began to realize that she was not to blame.

Cullen told Pia that speaking out about her experiences would help other children in similar situations.

In November 1999, when she was 15, Pia visited Japan.

In the Philippines, more than 2 million children must work due to poverty. Industrialized nations consume goods produced in the country without concern, and the abuse of children by overseas tourists is uncontrolled. Without richer countries fundamentally changing their thinking, child labor and child prostitution cannot be abolished.

It was to address this issue that Free the Children Japan, a nongovernmental organization for child welfare, invited Pia to Japan.

For about a week, Pia spent time with Japanese high school students of her own age. One of them, Yumeka Ota, now 23, but then a first-year student at Meiji Gakuin High School in Tokyo, said she was still unable to forget Pia's tears.

"I was shocked to learn that Japanese were among the offenders," Ota said.

Meiji Gakuin High School's students, including Ota, began a fund-raising campaign urging the abolition of child labor. Nine months later, they had raised about 1 million yen to buy a jeepney, which they donated to the facility where Pia lived.

Through her various activities, Pia has gradually recovered her confidence. She had long wanted to work with needy and underprivileged children, and while helping manage the Subic Bay facility, she started studying at a nursing school.

She graduated in spring last year.

Pia recently revisited Japan at the invitation of the NGO. During her two-week stay, she delivered speeches in schools and other establishments. When she met her old friends again, including Ota, they offered words of encouragement such as, "You can be a good nurse."

Pia has an aunt who used to visit her when she was very young. The aunt managed to find Pia's facility, and appeared one day three years ago.

Just before leaving for Australia where she currently works, the aunt told Pia she wanted them to live together someday. Pia unconsciously called the aunt "mother." A staff member at the facility voiced concern that Pia does not wear feminine clothing, saying, "She may still be fearful of men."

While speaking about her terrible experiences, Pia is sometimes overwhelmed by her unpleasant memories. But now, she finds strength in the promise of the woman whom she called mother.

Last weekend, Pia visited a welfare home for children in Osaka. When asked what her dream was, she replied, shyly bending her head, that it was to spend Christmas holidays with her "mother."

Stepfather Arrested In Child Death Case

A baby is dead and the child's stepfather faces several charges. Investigators say the child's stepfather, Jermaine Reaves faces several charges including aggravated battery and neglect.

"The child was taken to Methodist and sometime between there and later on that day, doctors determined the injuries weren't on-line with what actually was said happened. The very next day detectives placed the step-father under arrest," Capt. Brian Mahone with the Marion County Sheriff's department said.

Detectives said the child died Friday morning.

The prosecutor will decide Monday if Reaves will face additional charges.

Detectives say the mother was out of town when the incident occurred.


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Woman who threw three kids in SF bay goes on trial for murder

A woman accused of throwing her three children into San Francisco Bay is set to go on trial this week for their murders.

Twenty-four-year-old LaShuan Harris' family says she's mentally ill, and she's pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity.But prosecutors say she knew what she was doing when she dropped her young sons into the water last fall off a pier. They were 16 months, two and six.Harris later told psychiatrists that God had commanded her to sacrifice the three boys, her most precious possessions. Her attorney says Harris believes her children are in heaven and sends God postcards written in crayon.Her mother says, "She was very strung out on God."Jury selection begins Tuesday.


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