Honesty is the best policy? Don’t make me laugh! You may have progressed to the 'comfy' stage of your relationship but don’t be fooled into revealing those cards that should be kept as close to your chest as possible.
There are certain things about you, your family and your personal history that you don't need to share with your woman - ever.
In fact, mentioning any of the following would probably have her say, "I wish you hadn't told me that."
10. Your family hates her
This is an unfortunate situation, yes. But if you tell her, you'll only fuel the fire by making her angry or insecure. If you don't agree with your family's hesitations about her, then politely ask them to butt out. Just do what you can to make them change their minds and hope they'll warm up to her with time.
9. You have insecurities
Do you feel jealous of your best friend's looks or his sweet new car? Or do you envy your girlfriend's status, job or salary? Everyone has their share of insecurities, but in the dating world, it's vital that you keep these insecurities under your hat. One of the most important things a woman looks for in a man is confidence, and if she sees that you are constantly insecure and jealous, you won't seem so poised. So if you can't put a stop to your insecurities and your green-eyed monster, at least try to keep it to yourself.
8. You flirt with other women
If you are a flirty type of guy, she probably knows it already. In fact, you probably flirted with her before you got together. Having said that, she doesn't need to hear the list of women that you flirted with all day, nor does she need to hear about the list of women that flirted with you. If it really is harmless flirting, then why make her worry about it?
7. You have wimpy behaviour
Okay, so you don't kill spiders, you run away from fights and maybe you even cry during movies. Unfortunately for you, the cliché is true: Women like strong men. So telling her that you're afraid of an itty-bitty insect or that you can't stand heights isn't going to work in your favour. Naturally, if you are going to be with her in the long term, she might learn some of these little factoids as you go along. But do your best not to divulge them all in the beginning.
6. You compare her to your ex-girlfriend
Needless to say, everyone does this; she is probably also comparing you to her ex to some extent. But do avoid offering her specific details about your past conquests, specifically in the bedroom department. In fact, even if you are telling her that she is better than your ex, this is a bad can of worms to open, no woman wants to be compared to another.
5. You talk to your mother too often
Do you talk to mum several times a day? To a woman you're dating, that could be a little intimidating. A woman doesn't want to feel like she's competing with your mother, or worse, that you're dependent on mummy. So just keep that cute little secret to yourself.
4. You have not-so-cool hobbies
So you might keep a collection of Transformers in your underwear drawer or be fascinated by things like Fabergé eggs. But you have to realise that it is unlikely that she will appreciate your wacky interests and hobbies. Don't fool yourself into thinking that such quirks are charming; chances are they'll just be a real turnoff.
Talking badly about her girlfriends in front of her, or even divulging that you think her friends are anything but sweet and fabulous people. Most of her girlfriends have been in her life longer than you have, so talking negatively about them probably won't work out too well for you. If she doesn't end things with you entirely, she's sure to at least become defensive and angry about this - so if you absolutely need to trash her girlfriends, just make sure she's not within earshot.
2. You've done shameful things in the past
You might think that the two of you are close enough for you to reveal your secrets, but unfortunately, she'll never be ready to hear that you've cheated on past girlfriends or that you've enjoyed private dances at strip clubs. Even non-sexual shameful acts that you've committed - like theft, bullying or betrayals - are not things that you want to divulge. While you might want to get some of these secrets off your chest, she will never forget them and you'll come off looking like a less moral or honest person as a result.
1. You find one of her friends hot
So you think that blonde friend of hers is cute? Fair enough. But do have the sense not to mention it to your girlfriend - not even as a joke. She won't find it funny; actually, she will probably be angry and hurt, and in the long run, she'll never trust you around her friends. You might think that your girlfriend is secure enough to handle this piece of information, but let me tell you that she's not, most girls aren't, so don't risk it.
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