Tracey Cox
The Feel of Sun on Naked Flesh
Why it feels great: Some claim the only time our bodies are truly at peace is when the sun beats down on us, because the sun's and body's biorhythms are the same. But it's not just the rays that make outdoor sex in the sun unbeatable. We're permanently worked up by a combination of sensual triggers. People prance around in next to nothing during summer, providing a feast of flesh; a tan makes even the body-conscious feel good about being naked (as my brother says, brown fat looks better than white fat). Spreading sunscreen on each other is drop-dead sexy — continuing to rub parts that don't need it, even more so. Heat and humidity make us slow down: We're too relaxed to move, too laid-back to lift a limb and happy to lie back and enjoy lazy, languid lovemaking... delicious!
Re-create it inside: Do it in front of the fire. Pretend you're stars of one of those cheesy 80s movies: First you'd see a bra flung on a chair, then a pair of high heels, then two half-drunk glasses of champagne. Then, finally, a couple making out on a deep sheepskin rug, fire sparkling prettily in the background. Yes, it sounds cheesy, but anyone who's tried it has to admit it feels extraordinary! There's a reason why those thick carpets were called "shag-pile." People spent more time lying on them than walking on them because they felt so damn comfortable. Besides, firelight is massively flattering, and being naked in front of a fire, terribly decadent. Anyone for a martini?
Water or Beach Sex
Why it feels great: In water, we're gloriously weightless. Everyone feels light and buoyant in mood and body (not to mention thin). The squeamish get an extra bonus: Having outdoor sex in water guarantees everything is clean and fresh. Sex on the water's edge makes us feel like we're starring in From Here to Eternity; the smell of salt and the sea and the sound of water lapping (along with your partner) stimulate other senses. Nearly everyone's had a post-liquid-dinner-party semi- (or completely) naked hot-tub experience — and even if people's toes and hands didn't accidentally float our way, the prospect was excitement enough. Swimming pools, innocent as they appear, provided many a young girl with her very first orgasm. She'd position herself so the jet of water flowed directly on her clitoris and quietly climax, appearing to be dreaming away, lost in thought.
Re-create it inside: Solo, use a hose showerhead attachment and direct the flow of water where you need it most. Try changing the water temperature (hot to cold) and strength (hard and fast to a teasing dribble) for variety. Sex in the bath or shower might not rival sex on a beach, but it comes in a sexy second place. In the shower, lean back on the wall, one leg raised high, the other on the floor for balance. He supports your raised leg with his hand.
At One with Nature
Why it feels great: You're out in the middle of nowhere (a forest/desert) and suddenly you get an "I'm so happy to be alive!" rush, because it's just the two of you and Mother Nature. If you're under the shelter of a tree or in a tent, a menacing storm or copious rain only makes outdoor sex even more cozy and intimate. Our libidos rise when we're outside: Fresh air makes us feel energized and healthy, and the child in us associates being outdoors with freedom. As youngsters, we went outside to play "doctors and nurses," as teens to sneak our first smoke or cop a feel behind the school building. Our subconscious remembers all of this for us and taps us on the shoulder (or on another part) to remind us and to suggest we do wicked things.
Re-create it inside: Go outside when it rains, jump around like kids until you're thoroughly drenched, then go inside and have sex in the shower or the bathtub. Alternatively, pitch a tent in your yard (if you're childless, do it under cover of darkness, and if the neighbors ask about the tent, say your niece and nephew were visiting).
On Vacation Somewhere Exclusive and Expensive
Why it feels great: Few things beat playing "L.A. movie producer" and sitting on a sun lounger next to a fabulously excessive swimming pool, cocktail in hand and waiter hovering close by, ready to top it off after every sip! Few of us are so rich we can loll about in luxury every day, so when we are staying somewhere glitzy, we're also in a great mood. Having already grabbed all the freebie shampoos and slugged the complimentary bubbly, you're looking for other ways to make the most of where you are. The urge to be "naughty" is strong, and the elevator/hallways leading to your room/gardens surrounding the pool morph into enormous king-size beds, begging to be romped on. You're both looking your best, making an effort to dress up for dinner, and because you're abroad and anonymous, you're more likely to do something risky. We drink more when away from home, loosening those inhibitions further, and stay up later because there's no work the next day.
Re-create it inside: If you've got some cash to spare, take yourselves out to a ritzy hotel bar or restaurant, wine and dine, then search till you find relatively private/quiet bathrooms where you can hide for a quick five minutes. If money is tight, buy one of two indulgent treats you wouldn't normally spend money on (such as gourmet chocolate, expensive wine, a rich chocolate cake, organic strawberries), climb into bed and feed each other. Feeling spoiled and removed from the "everyday" evokes the same feelings.
In a Famous Place or Landmark
Why it feels great: You're standing in front of or in a place you've been desperate to go to your whole life. Regardless of whether it's a hotel in Vegas, a balcony with a view of the Statue of Liberty, a palace or Uncle Fred's back porch, there's enormous emotional significance attached to the moment. Having sex in, near or looking at a longed-for destination or landmark can turn an amazing experience into an out-of-this-world one. You're still not truly convinced you're there, so everything seems surreal and in slow motion. And even if the sex wasn't technically that great, it gets stored in the "sex experiences never to be forgotten" category because you're fulfilling a lifelong fantasy. Re-create it inside: It sounds silly, but sometimes even watching a video or looking at photos can nudge naughty memories. Help it along by talking dirty to each other, describing what you did and how it felt at the time. Build on this to create a fantasy, adding things you wish you had done. Then plan a trip to another special place, focusing on what sort of sex you'll have there.
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